The holidays are coming – hooray! Now you get to spend time with the extended family and in-laws – uh oh!
It’s a human thing for families to get together during holidays, but it’s also a human thing for people to clash and bicker. As many families will travel with their extended family or in-laws as part of holiday time, the spectre of potential arguments and tension can be an issue.
Even when a group of people are bound by family ties – personality clashes will arise. In fact, the potential for clashes can create a lot of anxiety, especially for women who are hosting people in their home, or packing up to travel to a destination with the entire clan. It’s important to remember that this is your holiday time too, and it should not be filled with tension. By keeping a few things in mind, you can help make sure things run a little more smoothly for you.
First of all, you need to let go. You are not the one who is responsible for everyone having a good time. Everyone is grown-up and needs to make their own fun, whilst accommodating others.
You need to ensure you are not running around doing things you don’t want to all the time, as this will cause a build up of resentment. Speak with your partner or family about what your idea of a good holiday is and make sure that there is an element in there for you too.
Be ready for your kids to experience an argument. You can even prepare them in advance and let them know that adults do this too. Some pre-planning in advance will also help. Having a reason to leave early will have you out of the area before things really kick off.
This year, give a little thought to what you would like and how you can make things easier on yourself, after all, it’s your holiday too!