3 golden tips to help cope with stress and suffering – Word Up! Marie Vijendran

3 golden tips to help cope with stress and suffering – Word Up! Marie Vijendran

In this episode of Word Up!, Marie Vijendran gives her three golden tips to help with stress and suffering.

Marie is a mindfulness coach with her own practise Attention2Being . In this video Marie walks us through the importance in having compassion for ourselves and how mindfulness can help us  relax and deal with life’s challenging moments. Marie also explains what mindfulness is and how to integrate it into our lives.

The tips that Marie gives are straightforward and easy to implement and can contribute a big difference in our lives. How compassionate are you with yourself, if at all?

 

 

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We all experience stress. Every single
one of us has a story of pain and

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suffering.

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Whether it’s physical pain emotional
pain.

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The question is: Are we actually

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turning away from and only resisting in
some way. Mindfulness

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and in particular the practice of self
compassion helps us

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in fact turn towards their suffering
which

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to begin with sounds counterintuitive
but until were actually able to

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except what’s going on for us we can’t
come

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into a better relationship with it.

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My name is Marie, I run a center for
mindfulness practice based in Oestgeest

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called Attention 2 Being.
Mindfulness is about paying attention

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it’s about coming into connection
between the mind and body

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and really being able to press the pause
button on life

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for a moment to really notice what is
going on for ourselves

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only at that moment I’ll

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in we know that mindfulness

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to compassion practices help with
emotional resilience

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where being at motivated and also with
decision-making

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this is because we’re able to be a
better balance between

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logical when the mind is telling us

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rational point of view and what our emotions are telling us

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from a gut feel. So mindfulness helps us to

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develop that different relationship and
in fact

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we can begin to notice that we may have
a tough pattern

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adding to my stress necessarily so

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being able to use mine for us to see
what is going on for us

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in that moment

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and to show an attitude kindest sound
that’s a

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really key peekskill ok

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at attention to being I offer a variety
of courses and workshops

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community say from a full eight-week
course

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whether that be an mindfulness-based
stress reduction

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or and mindful South compassion

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and there are a variety also workshops
one-day workshops when

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find out more about day techniques
Baltimore

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these longer courses before actually
sign course

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they’re also always of people finding
support in the community

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because mindfulness is not about simply
doing an eight-week course

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it’s really about integrating the
practices into your daily life

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and for many people takes the support to
the

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a group can offer

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or I’m available to offer Paul 121 coach

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support hind and brainstorm ways mines

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become part of your life long-term ok

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I’d like to give three tips to help cope
with stress and suffering

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tip 1 yes it’s not your fault that you
feel stress

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why do I say that

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well we inherit ancient brains in fact

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brain said it helped us wire for threat
and therefore

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it’s natural that you respond by feeling
stressed these a message yesterday that

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her reason

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tipped a dare

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to touch upon our ability if we accept
that stress is a natural part of our

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lives

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then we know that we’re going to
experience and ability with that

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but instead of fighting in turning away
from fidelity if we open toward said

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and weaken allows us to actively see
those feelings

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and the whole experience can in fact be
transformative

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tip 3: see if you can establish a
pattern in your life

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points Inc regularly even if just for a
few moments to connect between the mind

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and the body

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with the press breathing into your
experience

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by doing this in a consistent com and
soften

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and where existing in the nurturing
stated mine permitting

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us this allows us to rewire the brain
which we now know is

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plastic and able to see make new patents
through these new habits

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and it enables us to move forward from
the conditioning of stress

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it could be that you’ve heard all about
the differences that might

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ask night people’s lives be don’t think
this space in your life

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for it well maybe you’ve got questions
he’d like to have clarified

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item for it Nicole I also can’t

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talks in the community regularly so
maybe that’s not pertinent enough

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come to your place for example and we
could talk about how

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that’s not shitty for regular 9 sessions

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to help people also in a similar
position T-cell

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it

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up

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